It has been a source of comfort, support, laughs, and 스포츠 안전놀이터검증 delight for many women to have female companions.
Betrayal, mean-spiritedness, and competitiveness have plagued others.
Most of us, however, have experienced a middle ground between these two extremes, and this is usually before the age of twelve!
Most of us, by the time we’re 30 years old, still carry scars from the battles we’ve waged against the rules of engagement (or “tactics”) we learned when we were still playing in the sandbox.
Many women by the time they reach adulthood have advanced degrees in the art of savagely undercutting and demolishing their ‘competition,’ often while smiling.
Why do so many female friendships have such a tangled web? So rife with strife, discord, and suffering?
Is it because of social conditioning (i.e. “women are the competition”) or because of the woman’s own experience in terms of learning how safe relationships with women can be from the woman’s mother? (i.e., a mother who seriously betrays her daughter can teach her to never fully trust women).
For the most part, the answer is almost always complex, much like the women who ask the questions themselves.
Throughout my career as a psychologist, I’ve had the privilege of sitting in front of a huge number 사설 안전놀이터검증 of female friends who’ve had serious relationship breakdowns. Many women have told me about the heartbreak they have had as a result of their inability or unwillingness to deal effectively with the conflicts that arise between them throughout their relationships.
The suffering these women describe in my office, whether or not the friend in question is present, is something I can relate to from my own personal experiences ‘out there,’ so I can empathize with what they are going through.
Finding the humanness and compassion within each woman is my goal in these situations, which frequently hides beneath the wrath and hurt feelings.
Because they’re at an office like mine, it already tells me something that they’re willing participants in the process of mending their fracture, which makes my job easier because I usually have willing participants in the healing process.
Women who can 실시간 안전놀이터검증 get to a place where healing may occur are unusual; most friendships between women that are in crisis expire silently or after a violent meltdown, with neither woman taking responsibility for the actions that caused the breakdown in the relationship.
Why? Because they never learned how to effectively cope with disagreement when they were young. Why? Because they were indoctrinated from an early age to avoid conflict at all costs!
It’s not uncommon for boys and men to be a lot more direct when it comes to resolving conflicts with their gender and their methods of doing so – not always appropriately, for example, but you get the point: boys and men are considerably more direct when it comes to resolving 안전놀이터 conflicts with their gender and their methods of doing so…
Girls, on the other hand, were educated from an early age to “be kind,” and hence, they were never expected to find themselves in situations where conflict was likely to arise. At least, that’s what ‘they’ believed.
It’s not uncommon for girls and women to engage in activities that only serve to stoke the flames of conflict, making it nearly 카지노 안전놀이터검증 impossible to resolve mini-wars in the first place.
As a result, passive-aggression was born, in which a person can be extremely enraged and cause significant harm to their target, but there is no concrete evidence that they did anything wrong.
Girls learn to deal with conflict in ‘nice’ ways through a variety of methods, including gossip (also known as character assassination), enlisting others to take a side in an argument to isolate the other party and any potential allies they may have, and being outwardly kind to the other person while hiding their true feelings (also known as not being honest).
Young females, on the other hand, are more likely than boys to carry on their bad habits into adulthood and become the same inept administrators of their friendships that they were in their youth.
The idea of slapping your girlfriends in the face is certainly not one I advocate, but there must be a more efficient and less harmful method of resolving the female dispute.
Here’s a five-step 파워볼 안전놀이터검증 strategy to follow:
One must be truthful, two must be open to listening, three must be unafraid, four must be empathic, and five must be willing to see their role in the conflict that erupted.
If you can do these five things, there’s likely no disagreement with your girlfriend that you can’t fix (s).
Even in personal relationships, this method works effectively for both men and women; it doesn’t just benefit women.
In the absence of it, friendships and relationships will die over time, but people involved must be willing to conduct what I term ‘hard discussions’.
If the people involved in the conflict are prepared to be open and honest about their feelings, and if they do this in person rather than by email or text, there is a good probability that the conflict will be resolved.
In the end, it is up to you and the other person whether or not they decide to stay friends, but if they do decide to stay 안전놀이터검증 추천 friends, then you will have the dignity to move forward in peace and respect for each other.
So, ladies, take a look at the relationships you have in your life.
Is there someone in particular you believe could benefit from my “5-step” plan?
Let go of your playground methods and get down to business with your best buddy instead, since if you don’t do this now, your friendship could be in jeopardy.